The parable of Minnesota’s decline
Lessons from one state’s descent into massive fraud and chaos
I pastor a church just minutes from Cities Church in St. Paul, Minn. Last Sunday, Cities was invaded by anti-ICE agitators. I have friends who attend there, and I have visited that church on a handful of occasions. The images of parishioners, including children, being harassed by protestors were jarring—to say the least. Sadly, the desecration of that church is just the latest event in a long string of unrest and chaos in Minnesota. Sunday night, a pastor friend texted me and asked, “How can you stay in Minnesota?” I understand the question, and we certainly don’t stick around because of the weather or the politics.
I’ve spent most of my life, and all my ministry, in Minnesota. What outsiders need to know is that she was not always as crazy as she is now. The state I grew up in seems like an all too distant memory. Right now, at best, Minnesota is the eye of the storm of the culture war. At worst, she is a constant national embarrassment. But this is my home, and these are my people. There is a real need for bold, gospel ministry in this state.
For Christians watching from afar, you must understand how this state went from being known as Minnesota Nice to an object of ridicule. There are three important lessons Christians must learn from the parable of Minnesota’s decline.
First, whether you care about the culture war or not, it will eventually come for you. The invasion of Cities Church is a vivid reminder that leftism is an all-consuming and totalitarian ideology. It makes comprehensive demands on every aspect of life. It suffers no rivals, especially religious ones. Christians may hide behind a misunderstanding of the separation of church and state, but leftists have no such qualms. Christian flight from the political arena creates a vacuum quickly filled by the disastrous ideology of leftism.
Leftists believe that their worldview is true throughout life, and they are willing to enforce that orthodoxy everywhere. Christians who believe that claims to political neutrality will protect them do not understand their opponents. Christians cannot abandon the political sphere and hope to live quiet and peaceful lives (1 Timothy 2:2). The devouring ideology of leftism cannot be wholly countered without the totalizing truth of the Christian world-and-life view. For this reason, the chief enemy and target of the lies of the left is the church of Jesus Christ.
We must remember that we are blessed when others revile us and when they lie about us (Matthew 5:11-12).
Second, leadership matters, especially political leadership. Minnesota did not become a haven of fraud, lawlessness, and evil overnight. Over the last couple of decades, this state has moved from having a Republican governor to becoming known for its radical leftism. The fruit of this shift is on display to a watching world. The Minnesota you see on your screens is not the one I grew up in. The failure of politicians like Gov. Tim Walz and Attorney General Keith Ellison to establish the rule of law invites the chaos that now marks the streets of Minneapolis. The primary role of the state is to punish evildoers (Romans 13:1-7), but in Minnesota, this responsibility is shirked.
The result is unchecked spending, massive fraud, riots, the burning of a police precinct, more riots, assaults on federal agents, the flouting of immigration law, and now the invasion of a church. More could be said about a ballooning deficit, assaults on parental rights, and much more, but Minnesota is a parable of how leftism is anti-civilizational. It only has the power to destroy. Whenever magistrates fail to protect the rights of their citizens, it is the duty of other magistrates to step in and deliver those citizens from wicked and unjust rulers.
Third, Christians must not be intimidated by the vitriol of our opponents. These are dark and serious times for the church in America, but we must remember that we are blessed when others revile us and when they lie about us (Matthew 5:11-12). In this life, we will have enemies because Christ Himself has enemies. Such opposition is not a sign of failure, but an invitation to greater faithfulness. The enemy’s tactics are not new, and they cannot stop the advance of Christ’s church. The darkness cannot overcome the light.
Places like Minneapolis, where it appears darkness, chaos, and evil reign, are ripe for a bold gospel witness. What we saw in the words and actions of Pastor Jonathan Parnell last Sunday in the face of protestors in his church is an example to follow. Christians around the world would do well to learn these lessons from the parable of the decline of Minnesota.
The police have lied to me. They should never be able to lie to children.
No one, and especially children, should be imprisoned because the police coerced, manipulated and deceived them into saying something that is not true.
Children should have support, care, and compassion, especially when they are in vulnerable situations. But right now, police are allowed to lie to children during interrogations, putting vulnerable youth at risk. Because of systemic racism, Black and Latinx youth are most harmed by police lying during interrogations, known as “deceptive police interrogation tactics.” In March 2023, ACLU of Connecticut Smart Justice leader Marquita Reale testified in support of S.B. 1071, a bill that would ban police from using deceptive interrogation tactics against children, during the bill’s public hearing in the Judiciary Committee. The following is her testimony:
Senator Winfield, Representative Stafstrom, Ranking Members Senator Kissel and Representative Fishbein, and distinguished members of the Judiciary Committee:
My name is Marquita Reale, I am a resident of Hartford and a Leader with the ACLU of Connecticut Smart Justice Campaign. I am here to testify in support of Senate Bill 1071, An Act Concerning Deceptive or Coercive Interrogation Tactics.
I am also a mother and have two children. My daughter is 4 years-old and my son is 13 years-old. I am sure that the members of this committee who are parents feel as I do that there is nothing they would not do to protect their children. Children should be safe and protected everywhere, especially when they are at their most vulnerable. The past three years have been especially difficult as they dealt with the pandemic, being isolated at home, and not being in school or able to see their friends. On top of that, I have been going through custody issues with my children’s father, and unfortunately on a couple of occasions this has involved the police. About a year ago I called the police after picking up my daughter from her father’s place. We had gotten into an argument and I had called the police to report it. When the police arrived and I talked to an officer, he promised that he would help me and to tell him everything that had happened. He told me multiple times that he would help me out, and eventually reached out to a police department in the town where my children’s father lived. He said he would stay with me until they came to talk with me. When the police showed up, they immediately arrested me and charged me with violating a protective order. I had no idea that there was a protective order in place, and there was no indication from the police officer I was talking with that I would be arrested. Like I said, he repeatedly told me he was going to help me. I ended up spending three days in jail because I could not afford my bond, was separated from my children, couldn’t communicate with my friends, and basically had my life turned upside down. The point that I want to leave with this Committee is that I was clearly deceived and manipulated by the police. I believe they lied to me. They did not want to help me, they only wanted to arrest me. They did not care about what I was going through, that I was a mother trying to be with her children, that I needed empathy, understanding and real help, but instead I ended up in jail.
No one, and especially children, should be imprisoned because the police coerced, manipulated and deceived them into saying something that is not true. When I think about my son, who like I said is 15-years-old, I pray that he never has to interact with the police. I am truly scared that the police would not be looking out for his best interests in any situation, and that is not how it should be.
I was shocked to learn that under Connecticut law it is completely legal for police to lie to people during an interrogation, when they are in custody, including to threaten a use of force and deny the physical and mental health needs of people in order for the police to obtain a confession. It does not surprise me that these techniques would result in false confessions, and 29 percent of Connecticut’s wrong convictions involved false confessions. Deceptive interrogation tactics ultimately harm the people whom our state has made the most vulnerable: our hildren, people of color and people with mental or physical disabilities.
I urge this committee to pass Senate Bill 1071 to prevent further deceptive interrogations by police on children, interrogation tactcis that have harmed children and cost our state millions of dollars. Thank you for listening to my testimony today.
The kids are not alright: Trouble with law enforcement children
The sad reality is that many public safety families struggle to enforce the law on the street only to lose control of the battle at home
November 16, 2022 05:55 PM •
The West Coast town where I spent most of my law enforcement career was big enough to make the regional news most nights but small enough to make it inevitable that I’d regularly run into exactly the kind of people a cop tries to avoid. Twice during my career, I stumbled across a fellow officer’s child committing a serious crime. The worst one involved a crash, an injured passenger and the chief’s intoxicated son running down the street.
And of course, that doesn’t include my own children and their questionable activities.
It’s an open secret in public safety that the children of police or corrections officers often end up on the wrong side of the justice system. As a naturally curious behavioral psychology major in college, I often wondered what it was that caused this generational divide regarding the law. Was it the type of person who was drawn to law enforcement as the parental figure? Do law enforcement parents push too hard? Require too much of their children? Reign tyrannically over the development of young boys in particular (although not exclusively)?
I can barely remember a month during my years of peer support when I didn’t have at least one coworker confessing their despair at a child’s embarrassing, self-destructive behavior. One very close friend even had a daughter arrested for prostitution in his own jurisdiction. The stories were frightening and seemed ubiquitous. Not every police family had brushes with the law, but in my experience, there were significant numbers with at least one close family member having a local call history. Sometimes it was the spouse who was caught shoplifting. Other times it was a child who sold a stolen pill to a fellow student in school.
The sad reality is that many public safety families struggle to enforce the law on the street only to lose control of the battle at home. My son hates this story, but he probably won’t be reading this. It serves to highlight how difficult it is to raise children today.
Talking big
I was working as a sergeant in Internal Affairs, or as it was being rebranded, Professional Standards. I received a call from the local middle school where my son was in seventh grade. The vice principal explained to me my son had been overheard bragging about having marijuana on campus. He’d been called to the office, where they searched his pockets and backpack, but hadn’t found any contraband.
The school didn’t have campus lockers and the administration was reasonably sure my son had made it all up to look tough in front of his classmates. He was telling other boys his age he could get marijuana from me, his mother, since I was a cop and had access to it. (Remember, this was years before California legalized marijuana.)
Hearing my idiot child had thrown down on my reputation, I immediately wanted to squash his attempt at middle school infamy and redeem my own professional credibility. How dare he use me and my job to look cool in front of some zit-faced, squeaky-voiced 12-year-olds?
Now, looking back, I think I may have overreacted. I was the only living parent the boy had. As a police officer and single mom, I tended to be stern and overly rigid. But I was going to teach him a lesson he would never forget.
I asked the vice principal to please hold my son in the office. I would be there in less than 10 minutes.
Scaring him straight
When I arrived at the school office, I asked to be given a private room to speak to my son. The vice principal showed me to the conference room and shut the door behind him as the three of us entered. That’s when things got real for an adolescent boy full of big talk and immaturity.
I proceeded to explain to him that if he wanted to act like a drug dealer, he would be treated like one. I then began a strip search of my own child – right there in the school’s administration building. The vice principal tried to stop me, but I was seeing red. I told the befuddled man he could stay or he could go, but I was the parent and entitled to handle my child as I saw fit. I was acting as his mother and not as a police officer. Luckily, I happened to be in plain clothes and had my lieutenant’s approval to go to the school in the first place.
In my mind, I was not going to allow my own son to be one of those kids I had heard other cops complain about. If I could impress upon him the magnitude of his actions and the consequences he could suffer as a result of poor choices at this early age, maybe I could get him back on the straight and narrow. Also, I might stand a chance of avoiding the snickers behind my back from other officers who would have to deal with my kid on later calls for service.
Parenting paradox
So, how do you parent without creating a criminally rebellious child?
First of all, recognize most children are going to rebel on some level. Part of becoming independent is learning society’s boundaries and also handling the fallout of your chosen behaviors. Considering a child’s developmental status, the way a parent reacts is crucial. Parenting experts often emphasize consistent rules and age-appropriate consequences. They also point out the importance of calm, rational communication — even when your eyes cross and steam is pouring from your ears. Easier said than done. Yelling may get your child’s attention in the moment, but will they actually hear the message?
Family members have a special way of pushing each other’s buttons. The parent-child relationship is a perfect example. No one else can bring either party more hurt, anger, disappointment and fear … but also love, acceptance and belonging. Accepting that your child will make mistakes – and that they’re not always a reflection on you – is perhaps the hardest parenting lesson to learn.
When my children do well in life, I am proud and want everyone to know about their achievements. But when one makes a poor life decision, I take it personally and want to keep it as quiet as possible. Realize that every family has these secrets. Nobody’s life is scripted like a Hallmark-made-for-TV movie. But the pain is worth the rewards and growth is possible when we learn from our mistakes.
Law enforcement children
As a former police officer with almost three decades of service, I feel comfortable giving a little parenting advice to those who might be just starting their careers (and their families) in law enforcement. First and foremost, set guidelines for behavior and stick to them. If a child knows the rules and the repercussions for violating them, this gives them the opportunity to consider whether they want to choose those actions. Forcing children to guess at what will actually make you mad enough to enforce a punishment leaves a child with uncertainty about whether they might possibly get away with doing something they were told not to do.
Think back to your own childhood. Were you ruled with an iron fist by a dictatorial parent? Did you ever act out, knowing what you were doing was going to land you in a heap of trouble? No one wants to feel like they cannot win. Too many ultimatums and narrow lanes to live in can leave kids feeling they have nowhere to go but over the lines. No one can be perfect. If you expect perfection from your children, you will be disappointed. Worse yet, your kids might just stop trying to live under your oppressive lording.
Finally, consider why a child might be misbehaving. When they were little and skipped naptime, we could easily blame the misbehavior on being over-tired and cranky. That gets harder as a child matures. Divorce in a family often breeds a rebellion that can be traced back to the exact same time the family was dissolving. It is hard to remember that cause when they skip school or run away from home. Still, when kids act out, it’s never a bad idea to ask yourself, “What else is going on in their lives?”
The lack of control kids feel in so many aspects of their own lives can be the root cause of negative actions. Choosing to vape, wearing clothes they have been forbidden to have, or sneaking secret meetings with love interests against the rules of the household can give a rapidly maturing child a feeling of control. Especially if the child was exposed to adverse childhood experiences, they can act out in severe ways to lessen the mental burden of trauma inflicted upon them from the outside. Consider all these possibilities before flying into a rage and rushing to humiliate your child at their place of work – their school – like I did.
Internal family affairs
It wasn’t until months after the middle-school mishap, as I laughed about the incident over happy hour cocktails with friends, that I really appreciated the absurdity of the situation. Predictably, my friends and colleagues howled with laughter and applauded my no-nonsense approach to child-rearing. They were incredulous at how bold I was to invade my own son’s personal space (not to mention trampling his trust), all for a stupid comment he made to boost his own middle-class street cred. As his mother, I had spent years as a motorcycle cop before getting promoted. For better or worse, that poor kid had spent his entire childhood living in the shadow of my chosen profession. He was trying to escape my reputation, not the other way around.
A few days after the incident, I asked him why he had told people he could get drugs to bring on campus. Just like you’d expect, he shrugged and looked at the ground. I am not sure he even knew why he did it. After apologizing for making him strip down to his bare behind in front of his vice principal, we discussed his lying and just how serious it could have been for both of us if the situation had gone any farther. I was ashamed for going too far in trying to keep him from becoming a criminal. Also, I worried I was emotionally scarring him, a little at a time. I resolved to do better.
My son is 21 now. He never got in trouble with the police again. That I know of. And I do not need to know about any close calls, thank you. He is still a bit of a ham in social settings and although he protests when someone asks me to tell this story, I kind of think he enjoys the attention. As silly as his actions were, I think we both know I came off looking just as ridiculous for how I reacted.
